31 Comments on Is It Strange That, As A Man, I Cry When Visiting Memorials, Such As The 9/11 Tributes Or Vietnam Wall?

HUZZ69 on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 1:14 am


I am currently in the Army (17+ years). In the military you develop a camaraderie unmatched anywhere else because your life could depend on the person next to you. I consider all veterans past present and future my family (Brothers / Sisters in arms). SOOO, it is natural to sympathize at the memorial of a loved one / relative. You are not strange or less of a man. I am proud to call you “brother” and I thank you for your service to our country.

Lady Feather on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 1:14 am


Let me tell you, I visited the Vietnam Memorial wall when I was in high school. I saw a painting there of an older man leaning on the wall and inside the wall was a reflection of a soldier touching the leaning hand of the old man. I cried when I saw this painting…I felt the weight of those that were left behind and the loss they felt. I was only in high school, now, how could I possibly understand? Being in touch with emotions and being empathic is not strange sir, it’s a special gift and one that should be cherished.

Jen on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 2:46 am


absolutely not. my husband is active military and currently deployed in a combat job to Iraq, and the dedication you and him both serve/have served to your country is outstanding, so before i say anything else….i just want to thank you for your service to our nation and defending my freedom.
it is perfectly normal to feel emotion no matter who you are or what gender a person may be…we are all human. with you being former military, you have knowledge of what it takes to keep this nation as strong and powerful as it is, so when you see the memorials and pay your respects, you know exactly why you joined the military in the first place.
dont feel like you are weak or less of a man for crying. my husband is a strong man, but even he sometimes feels the emotion of his feelings. we are all human, and its completely natural. even if you werent former military, you are still a citizen of this country, and even that in itself is enough to cry for the ones we lost.

kiLLa kiMMziLLa ♥ [refined] on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 6:49 am


goodness no its not strange.
it would be strange if you DIDN’T get all choked up.
especially being that you were in the military.
i think it has an impact on everyone.. its so hard to understand what the military goes through. my brother might be leaving for Afghanistan in April [yeah.. next month] and i’ve talked to him about it. i asked him if he’s scared.. he’s only 19. he told me no that he was excited.
it makes no sense to me that he’s excited.
i get so sad when i hear of wars and of stories of people in the military meeting their fate.

DRAGON on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 11:09 am


Sack up sissy and stop wiping your tears with your panties. Seriously, it just shows you are a human being with compassion and the ability to mourn people who made the ultimate sacrifice. Just make sure someone is there to hold your person.
I hope you can find my real answer in there.
DRAGON 2012
“Great fortune for U.S.”

Veritas on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 3:46 pm


There wasn’t a dry eye in Washington DC at the Vietnam War Memorial Wall and if you go to the North of France to the DDay cemetary it is so moving ( with all the graves facing West toward the US) that you feel a deep emptiness inside you .

p.o.p.t. on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 5:58 pm


NO WAY!
I think it makes you more of a man to admit you have emotions and its normal to have feelings. These are important places with a powerful story behind them.
It makes you less of man to not have a heart and feel moved by those things

hog b on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 6:26 pm


You are a bit effeminate, but there’s nothing wrong with that.
When I go to places like the 9/11 memorial I can hardly help myself from bursting into laughter, it’s only the shrapnel wounds from three wars that keeps my face straight.

irishgir on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 10:31 pm


believe it or not this makes you more of a man¬! because you show your emotion –
the men that walk away keep the emotion inside afriad to show it incause people judge them..but you are strong and definatly a real man!

Vote 4 Pedro on Sun, 15th Nov 2009 11:15 pm


Of course not. The memories and the emotions that a person feels when see things like memorials is sad. I think that it would take a cold-hearted person to walk away without any emotion. Let it all out.

Master of Mathematical Analysis on Mon, 16th Nov 2009 5:28 am


People show emotions for different things and through different ways – memorials are always places where people may cry. If you cry at 9/11 or Vietnam memorials, guy or girl, there is nothing wrong with that.

ramona14 on Mon, 16th Nov 2009 10:03 am


No way, I’d think you were seriously callous and heartless if you didn’t cry visiting those memorials. They should be, and are enough to make even the most masculine person reduce to tears.

Wordpress Autoblog Plugin on Mon, 16th Nov 2009 12:00 pm


its not strange… why would it be strange for you to externally express your feelings?!?!
its totally normal and OK
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My thumb is bigger than yours on Mon, 16th Nov 2009 1:35 pm


Nothing wrong with a guy crying (so long as it isn’t over a stubbed toe or something..cuz…c’mon now). In no way does it make you less of a man to feel sorrow for tragic events. It makes you human.

Mary V. on Mon, 16th Nov 2009 3:44 pm


No, it’s sweet not strange. It doesn’t make you any less of a man. You’re probably more of a man than the indifferent gun slinging ones.

HeAtHeR on Mon, 16th Nov 2009 10:13 pm


I do not think it is strange at all. It just show that you are secure with your self enough to express an emotion that most people feel while visiting these places.

chrysti's midlife crisis on Tue, 17th Nov 2009 3:59 am


not strange at all, it does that to me as well, anyone who doesn’t feel it has no idea what the names on that wall has been through to let us live the way we live now

Jay, not J. on Tue, 17th Nov 2009 9:39 am


I don’t think so. People express their feelings differently. I’m sure those other people feel the exact same way inside but it just doesn’t show on the outside. I know I sure do.

Yevatron ~Believe!~ on Tue, 17th Nov 2009 12:05 pm


I think thats really hot how you are so sensitive. Other guys might call you gay or something but you’ll be the one with the last laugh when you get all the girlies =)

Cheap Logo Design on Tue, 17th Nov 2009 3:48 pm


My husband shed a tear at his friend’s memorial that got killed in Iraq right next to him. I don’t see anything wrong with having feelings.

Patrick D on Tue, 17th Nov 2009 6:53 pm


I kinda get choked up too and my parents aren’t even american.

remoserj on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 1:49 am


Not at all, in those situations….!!

starcrss on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 4:12 am


Real men cry. Thank you for your former service.

chrombut on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 4:13 am


not at all i think that any reasonable person would cry at a sad time for the world and remebering it

Free WP Autoposter Plugins on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 6:37 am


its perfectly normal.
even better than normal actually – it means you have a caring heart

grrl on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 7:09 am


It’s normal to cry there.

Smartphone Software on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 9:16 am


no. people who walk away with no emotion are strange

WP Autoblog Plugin on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 3:47 pm


…not at all strange to be able to express emotions

♥ Bernice ♥ on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 4:48 pm


No its not Strange at all. it just proves you care and understand .you feel the pain.
Thank God for people like you

Debra B on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 4:52 pm


no, you are caring and human for people who gave the ultimate sacrifice to our country. If I was beside you I would hug you and cry too..

Fred Phaggins on Wed, 18th Nov 2009 7:27 pm


Hell no… real men do cry…

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