31 Comments on As A Parent Is It Weird For Me To Realise That My Child Is In Fact Ugly?

SSSsss on Tue, 1st Dec 2009 9:43 am


I think sometimes Sight does overpower our hearts. Just because you can see that your child’s acne is making him look bad doesn’t mean you don’t love him for what he is. If he asks you, tell him whatever you think in a subtle manner and with a loving warm smile. Tell him that time changes everything and so would his skin but what doesn’t change is heart & what kind of a person you are inside. Make him understand & believe that he is a good person inside & being humble, down-to-earth, responsible, loving, honest, compassionate & all-in-all a ‘nice human being’ is THE MOST important thing in the world. When you meet someone Face just matters for few seconds, but after those 3 seconds what matters is THE WORDS that come out of the mouth, THE MANNERISMS, the HEART, the HUMILITY, the PERSON HIMSELF.. and not the face. But first and foremost.. YOU NEED TO BELIEVE THIS yourself. If you don’t believe this with your heart… you will not be able to make him understand this.
Good Luck and I believe in this strongly, that is why I was able to write it in such an elaborate manner And am sure your child is beautiful to you in & out (I hope).. no matter what
xx
P.S.You shouldn’t have used word like Ugly for your own child. He’s your flesh & blood. Maybe what he is outside, you are inside!

wmayers9 on Tue, 1st Dec 2009 3:34 pm


What you do is be honest: tell him that during adolescence, a kid often does not look as handsome as when he’s older. I mean, he’s not blind either, and he can see what he looks like in the mirror. Acne is temporary. And both boys and girls invariably look better when they grow out of adolescence.
The freakin’ ugliest guy in my neighborhood when I was growing up – and it was a BIG neighborhood – is married to the prettiest woman in the whole damn county. We all envy the hell out of him because she is so thoroughly devoted to him. And no, he ain’t no millionaire! He’s just a damn nice guy who works hard and is devoted to his family. The kind of guy you’d happily vote for if he ran for President. Tell your son there’s been some freakin’ UGLY men become President!

RED on Tue, 1st Dec 2009 10:05 pm


I to wondered if I would think my child ugly, or if I would be blind to it.
My little boy is only 10 weeks old at the moment but he is the best looking baby I have ever seen LOL.
However there is plenty of time for his looks to change, and i am wondering if he does start to look a bit on the ugly side will I notice, or will I still think he looks great?.
I think I would notice (but maybe not admit to it).
Also if your boy has a nice, friendly, happy personality it is likely that people with see him as a beautiful person.

Little Hobo on Wed, 2nd Dec 2009 4:13 am


By all means tell your slugs and snails and puppy dog tails that there are more important things – because there definitely are but NEVER ever tell him you think he’s ugly. Lie your **** off – practise if you must. You know that saying “honesty is the best policy” yeah that most definitely doesn’t apply here.
The way you talk about your child is disgusting, lets hope that your boy doesn’t developed your ugly personality otherwise he’s completely f***ed!

MTJ on Wed, 2nd Dec 2009 8:32 am


Looks aren’t everything. As long as he is happy that is the main thing. I hope you don’t openly joke that you think he is ugly. I would rather my son be ‘ugly’, happy and good in school, then ‘good looking’, sad and not care about how he does in exams etc.
Wow, I can’t believe how calmly and nicely I have answered this question. There are horrible things I am thinking about you right now as a mother, but will not let my mouth get the better of me in this situation.

Ditto on Wed, 2nd Dec 2009 12:29 pm


You would be a lousy parent to call your child ugly. That is just mean. If you do tell him he’s ugly at least admit it is your fault for giving him ugly genes.
P.S- even if you claim to not be ugly ( which you probably are)and he gets it from his father it is still your fault for spreading your legs and letting an ugly guy get you pregnant.

mummy of 1 on Wed, 2nd Dec 2009 5:30 pm


hell no i would have been so distraught if i thought i was ugly and my mother confirmed it. At the end of the day we look to our parents for support and advice not to turn around and tell us we are ugly, im sure this will hurt your sons feelings. I don’t understand how you could feel this about him i have a son who i think is Beautiful everyone i know thinks there children are beautiful even if they are ugly. Please do not hurt your sons self esteem if you have to lie then you are just going to have to learn to be good at it

Jenn on Wed, 2nd Dec 2009 6:46 pm


wow, u cant be serious, this obviously has to be a joke…if u do have to fess up, tell him u beat him urself with that ugly stick in the tree then tell the unicorn hes riding that it needs to use some powerful magic to help fix things for ur mind (if this is infact a joke, if not, ur pretty shallow and retarded if u cant put 2 and 2 together on how he got half that way since each person proven time and time again gives half their genes.)

Hudeanie on Wed, 2nd Dec 2009 9:55 pm


Haha that is funny. You really think that your son is ugly??
If he is starting to get Acne then maybe go to the docs and get it sorted. I dont think that you should tell him that he is ugly though even if you do think it. Parents are there for support so just try and lie if he ever asks you.

web security on Thu, 3rd Dec 2009 4:37 am


Not only is it weird, but it is wrong.
He is beautiful in his is own way, and some of the most beautiful people in the world lack physical beauty, but inner beauty always shines though.
And that is what really counts, of course.
What a shame he has such a shallow mother!

j.hartas on Thu, 3rd Dec 2009 6:17 am


you cant be honest.i know it sounds corny but hes probably beautiful inside.its actually a bit shallow if thats all you see when you look at him.its only skin deep.theres too much emphasis put on looks these days.its made kids very shallow.a nice person who can see past the superficial will make him an even beautiful person than he is today.hope this will make you see somethinh else when you look at him next.x

ginger on Thu, 3rd Dec 2009 11:51 am


you could just play him that kid creole song, just change the words slightly….”oh annie is not your mummy……..see if i was in your blood, then you wouldnt be so ugly!”…that way you also dispell any implication that he gets it from you. hope this helps

Princess Y on Thu, 3rd Dec 2009 12:56 pm


he probably looks like ur mom. and the tree part is prbably ur penis … tht u think ur self as a tree …. so ***** ur sapose to b there for ur son not say he’s ugly…
look in the mirror nd notice tht u would look like himm… u may not look like him now but probly wen u were lil u looked like him….
thts not nice… b a parent nd b there e for ur kid.. u stupid non-standing bastard

Wordpress Autoblogging Software on Thu, 3rd Dec 2009 2:59 pm


your nasty its one thing to say I think my son is not very good looking and has weight issues and another to say he fell from the ugly tree he is going to have some very bad self esteem when he is older honestly grow up and stop feeding him junk food

=] on Thu, 3rd Dec 2009 7:23 pm


This is a horrid thing to say. Kids go through handsome/pretty stages, and geeky stages. You should love this kid. I hope his Mum realises what a jerk you really are, and reads this Yahoo! question.
Buck your ideas up before you loose him, AND her.

Heather P on Thu, 3rd Dec 2009 11:29 pm


he got his looks from you and i don’t think you should be a mother i would hate it if my mother told me i was u.g.l.y not nice and besides he has 16 years to grow out of looking like you lol lol lol

Anonymous on Fri, 4th Dec 2009 4:47 am


LOL, are you a troll?
most ugly kids grow up to look gorgeous
ever see teenage pics of Tyra Banks? He looks like a rat trapped in an ugly machine! but now she is a world famous model with little to no plastic surgery

Naked Snatch ~MG~ on Fri, 4th Dec 2009 8:23 am


I could never see my child as ugly. I don’t think that’s possible. Strange woman you are.
Always remember: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

@ng on Fri, 4th Dec 2009 2:35 pm


This is really sad. If you child is in fact “ugly”, he will be teased enough by his peers. Why do you have to add to it?

AmberWh on Fri, 4th Dec 2009 6:00 pm


Damn, and i thought Mom’s were supoce to be impartial to their children’s looks! Poor kid!
PS… Take him to a dermatologist!

Lauren on Sat, 5th Dec 2009 12:10 am


You need to make him feel important, whats on the inside counts not on the outside. He got his looks from you, just let him be him.

dollhouse on Sat, 5th Dec 2009 2:37 am


you should’ve noticed how ugly his dad was before you guys had sex. now look what came out of it!
when your son asks you if he’s ugly, just say “ASK YOUR DAD!”

silverli on Sat, 5th Dec 2009 8:46 am


now i get the whole troll thing before all the answers to my question i wouldve gone mad at this kind of question but obviously it’s just someone who is bored

Proud♥2b on Sat, 5th Dec 2009 3:29 pm


omggg looks arent important :O im sure hes not ugly thats a horrible word its whats on the inside that matters>:(

Cat on Sat, 5th Dec 2009 9:31 pm


i think its awful that you would even think that of your own child to be honest. if thats the way you really feel then you should never ever tell him that no.

Toby D on Sun, 6th Dec 2009 3:53 am


Teach him to walk on his hands, and maybe you could make up his **** to look like a face.
Hope that helps…

Owl on Sun, 6th Dec 2009 5:25 am


how did your parents tell you?

Loved by some, hated by most! on Sun, 6th Dec 2009 7:13 am


Must mean you are ugly too as he came from you.

Hailey C on Sun, 6th Dec 2009 12:38 pm


that does suck ey? Dont tell him he is ugly, just help him get rid of ance, washing his face and cleansing alot

Crazydud on Sun, 6th Dec 2009 5:20 pm


It’s normal.

Wordpress Autoblogging Software on Sun, 6th Dec 2009 11:54 pm


PMSL x

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