10 Comments on If All Indian Women Were Financially Independent, Would Arranged Marriages Still Exist?

Unwanted Spirit on Tue, 22nd Dec 2009 3:57 am


Yes, I think it would still exist. Because even if all women are wealthy, there are still men even wealthier. There are men from foreign lands who make and spend in a month what these “wealthy” women make in a year. So if they use their charms, and beuty and have his kids, they’ll be well cared for. They’ll be able to work, and have a sense of independance, but they’re men will also be happy because they grew up with traditional values, so they won’t deviate too far. Oh, don’t think the women are slaves either….I’ve known many women who do the cooking and the cleaning, and the child care, BUT, they get their way. I’ve seen some of my aunts go on strike, and do NOTHING at home…and that render’s my uncle’s helpless, because they like my aunts running things; so if listening to their tiny requests gets the house running smoothly….then they oblige.
Are they really happy? Probably not, but who really is? Marriage is all about compromise, and who really likes that?

Well Wisher on Tue, 22nd Dec 2009 6:22 am


Yes, arranged marriages will exist even when all girls are financially independent. Searching a good match is not easy & a few day work rather, it is a carefully planned effort to explore all main qualities in someone. That is a must before marriage which is overlooked out of love with someone. All mother in laws are not troublesome in general but now-a-days most of the couples live separately after marriage even if they have to live in small houses, not b coz of mother in laws rather, they want their lives to be easiest possible, peaceful & least complicated so that in most of spare times they have maximum possible love & sex to enjoy together. It is the fact that in newly married young couples most attractive important things are considered to be deep love, affection & sex attaining orgasm for at least first 10 years.

Love Perseveres! A&C mommy on Tue, 22nd Dec 2009 10:02 am


I’ve actually heard more stories about WEALTHY people being stuck in arranged marriages because their parents want them to stay in the same social status. As for Indian woman, I think it’s mostly a cultural dynamic rather than a financial one. I’m not an expert on that though.

☼God lover☼ on Tue, 22nd Dec 2009 4:49 pm


i have soo many friends who worked and got married thru arrainged marriages
arrainged marriages is a culture,if culture weakens then probably they might decrease too
u can take it this way,90%of indian men are working atleast 60%of getting arrainged married…so would be women

EmmaGee on Tue, 22nd Dec 2009 8:42 pm


probably
partly because of tradition. but I’ve seen people dedicate themselves HARD CORE to their country (kamikaze pilots) soooo dedicating one’s self to parents? probably not as hard…
but its all a matter of opinion. i say it would stick around for traditional purposes

Dhoni please retire punk on Tue, 22nd Dec 2009 9:54 pm


Arrange marriage is our Tradition. It is not a game of helpless player.
Well, they live with mother in law NOT NOT NOT because they are not financially independent?
Have you really done your research before asking for opinions??
There are women who are married, work and still stay with their in-laws.

Shelby!! on Tue, 22nd Dec 2009 11:25 pm


I don’t think so. It’s a cultural decision, i think. some parts of the world and different cultures still have arranged marriages. to me it’s old fashioned people should get married to who they love when they want to..
haha i hope this helps:)

lala on Wed, 23rd Dec 2009 2:21 am


Arranged marriage is a tradition.The women don’t have a choice.Sometimes women are even killed for not sticking to it.

victimOF YAcultures &group on Wed, 23rd Dec 2009 7:41 am


I think yes but it might be religious too.

biddies on Wed, 23rd Dec 2009 8:27 am


nope they love to cook and cover their faces no matter what, if you do not do your house choires and stay in the house 24/7 i don’t know how you can live with them. I currently have aunts and uncles living in my house for about more then 8 years and im almost 17 and everything outside is bad like a tv commercial of a women at a beach is bad… Everything, and i have a big house, and can’t even use it 6 rooms are for bedrooms! there moving out in a few month and i might as well say in a few month ill be in college (not a few month but should fly by quick) yupp in the begining my aunt who came about 2 years ago would force me to read the quaran and then i got annoyed because i was in the middle of doing my hw and they would just say come and it is a order not an answer but that changed and not i bearly talk to them. But what i dont get is they love cleaning and making food. I find it like women are slaves and men are free. But they enjoy that rule since they been brought up like that
Also indian/pakistanian women get married to random people.

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