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EternalC on Mon, 28th Dec 2009 12:45 am


I’m a sexually open Indian woman, and it’s complicated. Let me enlighten you.
I got nothing but negative reactions, ostracism, and verbal abuse from the Indian community for being comfortable about my sexuality. In my experience, a lot of Indian men HATE to see their women act sexual. Even having sex with just one guy before marriage makes you a slut. The definition of a “good Indian woman” is to act sexually demure and pure. A bad Indian girl is one who is comfortable with sexuality, and is only meant to use and abuse. Parents will also be blamed if an Indian girl to open about her sexuality. I would hate it to hear people tell me that my mom is a bad mother, and it’s embarrassing for our parents as well to know that other people are calling us immodest whores. My mom did teach me to act conservative and save myself for marriage, but I personally chose to have pre-marital sex for my own personal pleasure.
Many Indian men refuse to marry a non-virgin. If you’re open about sex, Indian men are going to speculate that you’re a non-virgin. No Indian woman wants to be left alone with nobody to marry her when the whole community is poking fun at her for being a whore, So thus, they have to pretend to be modest and maintain such a demeanor. If they’re too open, word gets around in the Indian community and then Indian men are going to go “Oh, I don’t want to marry that whore.” Reputation is very, very, very important in Indian society.
Many Indian girls will say they’re virgins when they’re NOT. Trust me, a lot of Indian girls are sex fiends but they make sure NOBODY, NOBODY, NOBODY finds out! Even I sometimes lie about being a virgin, because I know severe consequences will follow if I’m too open. And, it’s easy to pretend to be a virgin anyway. You just say you are, and Indian guys will believe you. A lot of Indian girls are successful at fooling their husbands into thinking that they’re virgins, when they have given head to 10 guys.
I’m usually sexually open with my non-Indian friends or Indians that I know who are liberal and laid-back, or online because nobody knows me.
So you see, it’s a cultural thing. When Indian men start to lighten up and begin to accept that their women are sexual beings, maybe Indian women will start being more open.
I hope that helps.
P.S. Ancient Indian society was sexually liberated, but the fact that British and Muslims invaded India caused society to become ultra-conservative. The victorian, prudish values that Indians hold today are basically ideas that were imposed by the British and Islam.
THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH RELIGION, as the previous poster mentioned! Don’t confuse culture with religion. Indians can be any religion-Hindu, Muslim, Christian, Sikh, Buddhist, whatever. Like I said, ancient Hindu society was sexually liberated. There is nothing in Hinduism that says that you have to be ashamed about sex. But, British rule really screwed India over.

fraxinus on Mon, 28th Dec 2009 4:37 am


It is unseemly in every community for a man to try to discuss sex with women – married or single.
Has it occurred to you that you may be considered illmannered?

Wordpress Autoblogging Plugin on Mon, 28th Dec 2009 5:34 am


its bcoz of the social restrictions that they r shy to discuss all these things .They are forced to believe frm their childhood itself that it is something that should kept in secret and discussing abt it publicly is something immoral or unfair.
its time to change and the changing process is taking place,
sooner the current scenario would change, definitely,lets wait for that hopefully.
for that what we should do is make them aware that there is nothing wrong in discussing abt all these things bcoz its something divine(i believe) not anything dirtier

babun on Mon, 28th Dec 2009 5:37 am


They are quite comfortable and know the strength it has over men. That’s why they don’t need to talk.

Tarot Readings online by an experienced Psychic on Mon, 28th Dec 2009 7:22 am


actually it is the socially restrained environment in which they have been protected and brought up, it does not mean they are uncomfortable, it means they are more careful and shy. it is the same everywhere where the density of population is very large in living areas.in order to prevent abuse and population trigger, they are being taught to be aware and restrain their sexual desires. else the country will keep on growing more and more in population terms

Prav on Mon, 28th Dec 2009 2:01 pm


Some topics are best not discussed too openly like in the western society. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that from their point ot view. Only those who have lived in western society and environment are less “shy” as someone put it and I love that quality.
If they laugh it off and change the topic they are being polite to you and not tell you to shut up. One must understand other people’s morality, standard, culture etc rather than come to their own conclusions.

Elena D on Mon, 28th Dec 2009 4:29 pm


It is because it is considered dirty to talk about such things in their religion and most of them don’t know much outside their own experience. It’s comfortable for us becauase we know about sex from a very young age and it is a very open topic but for them even saying or thinking of the word sex is unreligious.

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